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Why Do Women Fear The Strip Club? (NSFW)

I have a confession: I like going to the strip club.

First time I saw the voluptuous ass of a women clapping on a stage adorned in nothing more than butt floss I stood amazed along the back wall of Magic City. It was one of the whore’s birthday’s so the runway was covered in a plastic trap. Whipped cream and chocolate sauce was everywhere. The bi-sexual sluts were having such a good time that they didn’t even care to work the room for the dirty bills clenched in the ogling men’s hands.

The time after that was in the back woods of South Carolina. Mr. Southern Comfort took me around to three levels of strip clubs: Scum buckety – where the women walked around butt ass naked, smoked cigarettes with their cat traps and squirted breast milk into the crowd. Butta Face – the pole work was good but the women weren’t cute. Classy – the women were pretty, some couldn’t dance but the atmosphere was inviting, especially for a woman.

It would be years before I stepped foot inside another strip club. It wasn’t due to lack of interest. I’ve always wanted to know what men get out of it. The problem was my guy friends didn’t want to take me. Women being paid customers at strip clubs is a fairly recent occurrence. They didn’t want to be the dude bringing sand to the beach. The types of clubs they usually went to weren’t public. There was no sign outside the door and sometimes a secret password was needed. These backdoor joints were illegal. There was definitely sex taking place.

A few months ago I returned to the strip club. So much had changed since I use to beg my Manny’s to take me. As I arrived at Sin City, I noticed that there were more women on line than men. These ladies were celebrating birthdays, bachelorette parties, Thursday night. Whatever the case might have been they were out there in droves determined to have a good time.

When I say I like going to the strip club please understand that it is less about seeing the women getting naked and more about the freedom expressed inside. It’s always entertaining to see women let loose. How many of you have seen those internet video clips of women in the male strip clubs on stage loosing their minds and sucking the strippers dick on stage in front of everyone? You know you’ve watched half disgusted, half envious.

Strip Clubs are without a doubt about the objectification of the human body. Some bodies deserve to be objectified. It’s not my place to judge the lost women who prance on stage for money. I’ve decided to applaud their hard pole routines and marvel at their strength. Holding up an hour glass frame with the your thighs while hanging upside down is not easy. There is this one chick who doesn’t take off her top and bottom. She doesn’t have to because her pole game is so sick that he easily gets the most tips when she’s on stage.

Every time I got to the titty bar I leave there promising to go to the gym. Never happens.

One thing that does happen is I imagine my life as a stripper. What would my name be? Would I be a VIP chick or a side stage performer? How much money would I make a night? I know I could dance for the cute guys but what about the ugly fat bastards that get a hard on while I’m giving them lapdances and jizz their pants? Can the dollar make me see past all that?

If you ever want a pick me up go to the strip club, look at all the wayward women selling their bodies and say to yourself “At least I haven’t hit this low.” I see the money that gets thrown on the stage and can’t help but wonder “If these women make so much money, what are they doing with it?” If I was pulling in a couple hundred dollars a night, mostly tax free…man I don’t know what I’d do or how I’d be living.

Women tend to think that strip clubs are about men cheating but not so. If your man is the type to go to the strip club, chances are he just likes to blow off steam and knows how to have a good time. Men don’t go to strip clubs to cheat. They go to fantasize. They go to treat a woman like a prostitute cause they can’t treat you like a whore so they pay another women to smack her ass and call her out her name. Nine times out of ten he’ll end up coming home and plowing the hell out of you.

Go to the strip club and instead of screw facing the broad thank them for helping you get your back blown out.

I have a confession: I like going to the strip club. First time I saw the voluptuous ass of a women clapping on a stage adorned in nothing more than butt floss I stood amazed along the back wall of Magic City. It was one of the whore’s birthday’s so the runway was covered in […]

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Why Friends With Benefits Is a Bad Idea

Midlife daters would be wise to avoid blurring the lines of friendship.

Friends with benefits can cause a good friendship to end.

There are a lot of things to celebrate about dating in midlife, namely that you’re smarter about what you want from a romantic relationship now than you were in your 20s. But there are also times when you might feel lonely and in need of some comfort. Maybe you’re even thinking about hooking up with an old pal in a “friends with benefits” situation. But before you do it, here are some things to consider.

False Perception of Comfort

We all get lonely a time or two, and friends with benefits might seem like the perfect solution. After all, you’ve got a buddy who knows you and is attracted enough to you to spend the night. But after the sex is over, you will still be left with the empty feelings that drove you to seek out your friend to begin with. Only this time, you’ll add that weird feeling that comes with changing your friendship to include physical contact. Weird feelings with a little bit of loneliness? It can make you feel really bad about your situation and increase the perception that you’re alone.

One Person Has Romantic Feelings

As a dating writer, I’ve heard about a lot of friends with benefits situations, and in nearly every case one of the friends tended to have hidden romantic feelings for the other. For one person, sex was more than just attraction and friendship. This led to feelings of confusion for one of the friends, and even fear that they couldn’t really share their feelings. What do you do when the person you normally talk to about things like this is the one you’re having feelings about?

It’s Not Just About Your Body

Friends with benefits might seem like the perfect situation in midlife because you’ve got your act together and believe you can have sex without emotional attachment. That’s a perception that doesn’t quite hold water in the real world, however, because with the release of endorphins and oxytocin, your body will experience closeness with the person you’re having sex with that you can’t turn off with your mind. Combine that with the emotional bond that you already have with your friend, and you’ll get a mass of confused feelings heading your way that will make you wish you’d have kept your clothes on and your bedroom door locked.

Midlife Doesn’t Have to Mean Settling for Sex Without Emotion

Some midlife daters opt for sex with a friend because they don’t want to get married. But even if you’d like to remain single, friends with benefits will take away from all the hard-won sexual independence you deserve. It might seem like an evolved way to cure a sexual craving, but in reality it will add to emotional confusion. This is exactly what you’re too smart for as a midlife dater. Of the many benefits that dating in midlife has, knowing you don’t have to settle is at the top of the list.

Moving Forward With a New Relationship Can Be Difficult

I’ve talked to many daters who said that after they had sex with a friend, they found it more difficult to go on to date with someone else. In some cases, they felt guilty about trying to find a true romantic partner. Their dating life became something they could no longer discuss with their friend. In an effort not to hurt their friend’s feelings, some people even began to lie to their pal about the dates they went on.

The question to ask yourself is: Do you want to stay friends with this person down the line? A friends with benefits arrangement will make that difficult.

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Midlife daters would be wise to avoid blurring the lines of friendship. Friends with benefits can cause a good friendship to end. There are a lot of things to celebrate about dating in midlife, namely that you’re smarter about what you want from a romantic relationship now than you were in your 20s. But there are […]

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